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Recently I have noticed I am repulsed to dating. The guys are always nice, not bad looking and decent character but nothing special, still sometimes below the average women regarding looks, character, behavior, emotional intelligence, etc (at least for me). I have given so many a chance, thought I might be the problem, because the common denominator is me, but I have realized I am just not willing to settle, I physically can't. I would loveeee to be excited for a date, go all out and get dressed up for him (go to the nails salon, the hair dresser, buy a new outfit, be uncomfortable in heels, wear make up etc). But I don't even see a effort in wanting to impress me, wanting to do something romantic, taking charge or even them dressing up, be cliche and bring flowers, doesn't have to be a expensive bouquet, but even one is enough, get dressed up, and look handsome. But everyone just wants something chill, low effort, it's already to much to ask when I want them to plan a nice date. Even my friends have organized more romantic picnic then a date ever has, so I don't even feel exited or wanting to put in the effort to look nicer for him. I'm just done giving guys the benefit of the doubt and having to justify everything, yes I have high standards,but what's so bad about it, if I lower them im sacrificing and unhappy. Yes romance movies are unrealistic, but at the same time if both parties put effort in it, it could be like that, at least once in a while to make it special and be thoughtful, would be nice, but I know it's too much to ask

Edit: I don't use datingapps.

Edit: I'm not saying it has to be the first date, but in generell can be the 5 or 50 date, depending on the dynamic, but just something that's more than casual or everyday activity